You ever experience a person who quietly enters the room but everyone seems to turn to look at them? That attraction isn't mere beauty...
Those who walk in a room and command attention do so with their presence first, which is a direct connection to their energy.
Contrary to popular belief, people are not attracted to our beauty, our clothes, etc. They are either attracted, or not attracted to our energy -- which we convey through our outward appearance.
You ever notice that person in the room who always seems to "try too hard" to get attention?
This is why it's important to understand that our bodies, our style, our money, none of it makes us who we are. WE make those things by WHO we are.
"There's just something about her..." "He's just got IT..."
What is "it"?
It's energy.
If our energy is peaceful, others will feel peace when they're in our presence. If it is confident, loving, loyal, etc...do the math!
;-)
When we change our energy, we'll change our lives! Once we change our lives, we'll change the world, sometimes by simply confidently walking in a room.
Final thoughts:
Our sharing light and love does not automatically guarantee that everyone will like us. Some people are so used the darkness, they are irritated by the presence of light.
I’ve often shared with my students, sister-friends and others I speak with, the importance of wearing confidence along with everything else we put on from day to day. Dove has created a short documentary that shows us just how important this is. Perhaps you’ve seen it but if not, here it is.
I encourage you all to take the time to watch it and share it with every woman you know so that we can begin behold our own beauty.
Note: If you would prefer to view the vlog based on this same topic, please see the video below! ;-)
I have recently had
mixed emotions about the sudden "trend" of sisters wearing natural
hair as I have worn my hair natural for the majority of my adult life after
completing my first "big chop" when I was 15 years old -- before there
was ever a big chop to be had.
With recent
popularity, I found that I began to take a somewhat elitist stance on natural
hair, making me no better than the sisters who choose to go natural or even
rock a "bald head" because it's the current "in" thing to
do. I was no better than the hair care/beauty industries, magazines and
advertisers who are riding this new wave to capitalize on the trend.
I
had to take a step back and realize that, from pop culture to politics,
sometimes it takes a trend or a "fad" to generate change in the
hearts of even one person and in turn, that one person can be the spark that
revolutionizes the world.
So, who am I to keep
the trend from growing into a true way of life?
As I've grown as a
woman and a “naturalista”, I am dedicated to not only sharing with sisters
the truth that "good hair is healthy hair" and that natural hair is
healthier hair but that living a healthy lifestyle overall enhances our beauty
in ways that go well beyond the way we wear our hair.
I’m no “natural hair
Nazi” who feels that all women should wear natural hair. My concern is for
sisters who feel they can’t wear
natural hair and be beautiful; those who feel their hair has to be “relaxed” to be “good”. My issue is the same for sisters
who feel they have to wear make-up, weave, false lashes…
But this isn’t about them right now…
This is about us. This is about those of us who have
somehow managed to “recondition” our minds to understand that we don’t have to
maintain societal standards of beauty. This
is about our position and the power that we have to encourage those sisters who
are still growing in their hair journey.
How dare we take an
elitist stance on something that many of us struggled with ourselves? Many not
so long ago…
Most of us were raised
by generations of women who depended on lye, weaves and wigs to fit into European
standards of beauty. As sisters attempt to renew their thinking, they should not
feel alienated because they haven’t “arrived” to where you are in your natural
hair revolution!
As with any other area
of life, growth and revelation are an ongoing process. For those of us who have
found comfort and confidence in our own natural texture of hair, we should be
encouraging our sisters in every way possible to feel beautiful, regardless of their current position in
life.
We don’t want sisters
to fail to see all of the benefits and beauty that comes with being natural. We
don’t want our lifestyle to not be received, or even considered, because of an uppity,
belittling attitude towards those who are still growing with us. As with
anything, presentation is everything.
***Quick sidenote/example: I hate math.
Always have and I’m certain I always will. Regardless of how I feel about the
subject, math was an important part of my intellectual, scholastic and social
development.
As much as I disliked
math, I wasn’t a total failure at because every so often, I would be assigned
to a teacher who was willing to be patient and work with my non-mathematical
mind, presenting equations and formulas in a way that I would understand and
receive. Their angle made the difference. Many were able to make it so that I
actually enjoyed the class! Who would
have ever thought...?
So, bottom line: Get
over yourself. In all things you do, seek to inspire others to be their best
and to recognize the beauty that was planted within them when they were
created. Sisters have it hard enough without us tearing one another down.
May the trend continue
to grow and may the revolution begin with you! To my sisters considering going natural, welcome to the club! Don't stop til you get enough! *cues MJ*
